Since I love reading other people’s lists of favourite books, here are a few of mine. I’m not sure how much time I’ll dedicate to this post but for now I’ll start small:
Healing and Self-Empowerment
One book I absolutely love is:
This is the book that explained in eye-popping, specific detail how narcissists act and how much of current psychology just doesn’t get it. Narcissists often act the way they do simply because they choose to do so, not because of their upbringing or some deep inner insecurity. I was gob-smacked when I read each characteristic of an immediate family member’s behaviour so clearly explained – I thought Dr. Simon possibly knew him.
Also by Dr. Simon (no photo, since it’s on my e-reader), is Character Disturbance, the Phenomenon of Our Age. I was more prepared for this one so didn’t suffer the same type of feeling that someone had been looking over my shoulder for several years.
Not only does DeSalvo show, scientifically and anecdotally, how writing helps people’s emotional and physical health, it’s a fascinating read about how many well-known authors have written their way through abuse, life in totalitarian countries, death of children, terminal illness, depression – the list just goes on and on.
Inner work, as described “a healing guide”. At the end of the book is a 52-week “Journey Through Time, One Week at a Time” with writing exercises to help you examine your feelings, talents, where you can go with your life and focus on and help yourself. I’ve gone through the short exercises once and am on my second time round, and it’s inspiring to check in on what I wrote a year ago and compare where I was then with where I am now.
Tips that can work for the garden-variety bully. Although empowering to know how to act and what to say to people like this, be aware that narcissists and manipulators will just ignore anything you say anyway. Don’t expect them to change. This book is to give you a few extra tools so that you are better equipped.
The famous Artist’s Way: I first read it years ago, not because of dysfunction or abuse, but her suggestions on morning pages got me back to journalling on a regular. That changed my life in numerous ways – I basically journalled my way into buying my house (pretty empowering for a single woman whose parents never owned their own home).